American Motivational speaker, Wayne Dyer says,

“Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”

I'm not a Wayne Dyer fan... though I know people who are.  I think some of what he says is good.  The above quote struck me as VERY good.  It's so true.  People often make judgements based on appearances and that is so shallow and so neglectful of finding out the truth.

Things are not what they appear.  For example, a peanut is not a nut; it is a legume.  A koala is not a bear; it's a marsupial.  And sometimes a smile is not a sign of happiness. It is a mask that covers the pain within.

One can never know someone's story just by looking at them or even by only catching a glimpse of the picture.  I read this story a couple of months ago that brought me to tears - it was about a woman's husband who had suffered a brain injury which left him with a changed personality.  Once in a while she would catch glimpses of the man she married only to have him fade away again at a moment's notice. His behavior was not understandable to people who were not aware of the injury - it's not like he or his family carried around signs to say "I'm suffering from a traumatic brain injury.  I'm really a nice guy underneath this so please excuse my behaviors and be kind to me and my loved ones."  But the point of the story was perhaps we all should carry signs.

You can read the whole story as it was originally posted here.

When I read this story, I couldn't help but think of my own family and friends.  I thought of the things they have been through, the things most people don't know about and the judgements people may make based on appearance or behaviors when they don't know the story behind it.  People can be very rude and judgemental.

I hope you take time to read the woman's story.  And I hope you can recognize that we all have stories. And then I hope that you will  " think about some of the big signs with big messages that I bet you wish you could wear around your neck sometimes so that people would be more gentle, or even that you could put around the neck of someone you love — so that you didn’t have to go into a big long story to defend yourself or someone else– so that people would just stop judging and just be kind."

I also believe we must forgive these people who are not kind.  The ones that don't know the story and feel they have to make the comments they do - not knowing all there is to know. They are swimming in their own stuff that we, the judged, don't know anything about either.

Forgiveness Doesn't Excuse Their Behavior
Forgiveness Doesn't Excuse Their Behavior

Random Thoughts For a Saturday:

  • Be Kind
  • When you feel yourself judging, try doing a random act of kindness for that person instead.
  • How does the guy who drives the snowplow get to work on a snowy morning?
  • Three year olds do not understand that stuffy noses do not clear up just like that. Nor do they understand that crying makes it worse.  🙁
  • It's hard to explain to a dog that swallowing the medicine is what makes it work.
  • It's amazing what a fourteen year old boy can train a toddler to do (give the 14 year old a hug every time the toddler wants him to do something, for example).
  • Again, Be Kind.


My favorite quote that I read this week was by Katherine Patterson.

" I love revision.  Where else can spilled milk be turned into ice cream?" 

This needs to be my motto!  I love Katherine Patterson.  I was fortunate enough to see and hear her speak at a SCBWI conference quite a few years ago (and grab an autograph!).  At the time she was anticipating the release of the movie, Bridge to Terabithea.  Her son was actually part of the filmmaking process, though I don't recall the details but it was absolutely wonderful since he was part of the inspiration for the book!  She was highly inspiring.  Perhaps I need to dig out my notebook from that conference and reread my notes!  Perhaps I'll get lucky enough to find time to do that today!

I've felt accomplished this week.  I have blogged each day about the things I am most passionate about.  I have also found some more blogs to follow.... blogs by other authors and other topics of interest to me.  I have read a little about blogging, learned how to put an image in a widget on my sidebar (It shows that I signed up to participate in PiBoIdMo) and I dug out a book I've had on the shelves on writing for children.  I've read this book before but feel I need lots of refresher courses so to speak. I picked one, for now, that I recall being very simplistic in reading and understanding.  One I can read just before bed and not be overwhelmed.

 Random Thoughts for Saturday:

  • It is incredibly cute and precious to watch a little toddler say Morning Prayers with the family while wearing his pirate hat.
  • A mug of hot Sweet Italian Sausage Soup on a chilly October afternoon is very comforting.
  • Crock pots are a wonderful form of technology and convenience 🙂
  • Men and women have very different views on priorities and what they should be.  (Bet you already knew that one!)
  • We shouldn't make assumptions....  Our family has problems with this one. I will admit that I do.  I'm sure everyone does (or is that an assumption?).  But  the thing I'm thinking about in particular is from the article I read this morning on the lady that sued McDonald's about 20 years ago.  The public generally only got part of that story and really ridiculed the event.  There are lots of facts about that story I was completely unaware of until this morning.  Here's a link:

    Did You Ever Hear About The Lady That Sued McDonald's?

Well, that is all for today!  I have several things to do this morning (like fill that crock pot I mentioned with a venison mushroom stew), putting in some new contact paper in some kitchen shelves, washing a beloved 'blankie', and drinking my tea before it gets cold...and then hopefully I will tackle that cupboard containing all those old dusty manuscripts and notebooks!  I hope you all have a wonderfully blessed day!