I have to agree with Rose on this one. While I often have referred to forgiveness in my posts with different quotes and my posts on Orthodoxy, I don't think forgiveness necessarily means you lose the scar tissue. There are pains in life one never forgets. It sticks with you like a thistle sticks to your socks, like the clutching hold of a drowning man, like a tick embedded in your skin....
You do need to forgive - not necessarily for the sake of the person that has offended you but for your own soul and your ability to live a peaceful life. That doesn't mean you'll forget the pain or that it won't affect you in any way. You don't need to have an ongoing relationship with someone who causes you immense pain. You don't need to submit yourself to more pain and certainly not abuse. You do need to forgive, pray for them, and let go of the anger that lives down inside erupting into unexpected blows that erupt like Mt. St. Helen's.
And yet even with forgiveness, the pain can still linger.... but I think we can put it to good use. We must recognize where the pain comes from. While we work on forgiveness, we must also recognize 'what has this event or circumstance done to us? What has the pain caused?' A person who is overly sensitive because of traumatic events in childhood can use that sensitivity to be empathetic to others who are sensitive as well or have lived through similar ordeals.
What qualities do YOU have that are a result of past pain? Though that pain may truly never cease to exist, how can YOU use it for good - allowing the pain to subside and be put to good use?
Random Thoughts On A Saturday:
- We had a wonderful time at the 77th 2014 Novogodny Ball held at the Crown Plaza in New Jersey this past weekend.... here's a video clip from the 2013 Ball that I found on You Tube:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i1In_2R0H3g
- Writing is my passion. So is chocolate...but writing is a bit healthier.
- While listening to her toddler make rhyming words is incredibly delightful and I can truly find amazement in his ability to do so, the fact that the rhyming words are nonsense words and he does it all day long can drive a mamma wild. LOL
- I am grateful to the people that love my family and make our days brighter by the gift of their time to help us.
- It's important to do things for yourself. Make yourself a priority. That doesn't mean to forget the other priorities in your life, but don't forget to include yourself in them.